Everything You Need To Know About Healing From Traumas

I too know the hardships of starting the process of healing

A bit of background story: I started this healing from trauma process, thinking I needed to heal from 1 relationship and to close out the pattern that I found myself continuously repeating through my journey. Once I started the path of healing, I quickly realized it was more than just that one relationship that was the underlying cause to my cycles. Thus far I have learned that I had 3 relationships to heal from which has resulted in finding closure to my cycles. It has been the hardest, most rewarding experience that I have yet to encounter! It wasn’t easy to even accept that YES! once and for all I was going to seek help. Healing from traumas is a difficult decision.

Not easy but well worth it!

I recall asking myself, ufff (*Sigh) why did it took me this long to take on this such well needed path? Well, let me try and break it down, I think it was about overcoming my inner fears. First and foremost, for me it was shame that kept me from breaking my walls and the feeling/believe that I was not worthy enough to even try to discover the truths behind the abuse. I was told all of my life throughout the years of abuse that I wasn’t enough and deserving of a better life, and by downfalls were due to me being hardheaded and just an uncontrollable child. Until I started the healing the process to heal from all of my traumas.

I owed it to myself to start healing from all of my traumas, and that’s exactly what I did! I will forever be proud that I took the realm to my life and focused on healing. I’m still in the process of healing and there are some good and bad days ahead. Altogether, I would like to share with you the 3 most fundamental steps that I have taken for this journey.

These are the 3 things that have been beneficial and of turning point in my journey.

1. Seek professional help: The program I found is very specific to my situation and my personality. This was complex, I tried years before to find me a counselor/therapy, but the ones I encountered didn’t seem to fit me and/or my situation. I came across this program by accident in a pivotal moment of my life. Browsing through YouTube, I discovered definitions and label to my abuse unbeknown to me. Going through such a detailed and customized therapy has been key to my healing.

“Relationships with narcissists are held in place by the hope of a ‘someday better,’ with little evidence to support it will ever arrive.”– Ramani Durvasula

2. Practice self-care: Being a busy mom of 5 and someone that was molded to take care of everyone else but thy self. Self-care was something that I had to prioritize. I started small with things that I had always put on hold and wasn’t able to practice such as journaling, meditation, and doing activities that I find to be fun and relaxing. I’m still adjusting but do try daily to start my day with affirmations and believe that “I can relax and have nothing to do days.”

3. Connect with others: You see this one for me is the HARDEST! I’m an introvert and lost all of my contacts, friends and relationships network. The ones left were nonhealthy for me and I had to do more of a clean-up, scratch all and start all over again in this area. And because I’m learning to finding myself again and recreating the life I want, as an adult making friends can be difficult. In hindsight, I must say thanks to the therapy/healing program I’m in, it provides a network of people whom you can connect with. Indeed, it has been an adjustment but I’m being patient with myself and know one day I will get there!

Just know that slowly but surely you will get to the finish line!

Overall, these three approaches can be helpful for trauma healing by providing a safe space to process and work through the trauma, promoting self-care and wellness, and providing social support and connection. You are deserving of finding yourself and recreating a new you, convoluted of all the twists of life captured as experiences and living your best life! At the end of the day, your work to heal from your traumas will be well worth it.